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Social suicide

The 10th of October, 2009. This was the day that I committed social suicide. Now, I’m dead. I can’t begin to tell you how peaceful it has been since I died, but I will anyway: “It feels fucking great!”

Look. If you’re being honest, social networking sites are all about sex, about getting some. But, they won’t get you anything. They’ll just get you bored. In exchange they’ll suck up precious time that you could have spend socializing with actual friends. Fuck social networking sites!

LinkedIn

I thoroughly hate LinkedIn. The whole concept is alien to me. It’s a big CV circle jerk, but without the nakedness. LinkedIn is what you get when you take the concept of “social” and remove the component of “fun”.

Deleting my account was fun, though, and it took only five steps.

MySpace

I’ve never actively used MySpace. My account was mostly a means of stopping annoying little Asians from repeatedly using my email address to register their accounts (and to get all their fucking notifications; I still get a lot of invites for Asian social networking sites because of a few of such incidents). Beyond that, MySpace has always been the social site I least liked of all—its ugly, confusing interface, its ugly URLs, the long, confusing pages, the ill-conceived, user-customized pages. What’s not ugly about the site? Did I mention that it’s ugly? Well, it’s confusing too. And a mess. Worst of all, it has that dodgy “we’re a soulless corporation but we caaaaaare about you (and we’re so sassy and fun)” thing going on… If that’s not bad enough, there’s another unsurmountable problem: the fucking name!

If you’re not a band, a fan, or a fucking retard, there’s simply no excuse to use MySpace. Okay, there could be one: it takes fucking ages to delete your account!

Hyves

Reaching the 85+ friends mark in Hyves was the drop which made me jump from the whole social web wagon. I don’t have 85 friends. I don’t want to have 85 friends! Whoever does, needs to get some fucking counseling. It’s not healthy to have 85 friends. And if they’re not friends, then don’t fucking call them so.

And the site’s design has always been horrible. Like MySpace it has these horrible user-controlled designs which make my eyes bleed. (Ok, I admit these could be disabled, but that doesn’t make it any “cuter”.) The site is flaky as hell, too. Every piece of the site breathes crappy implementation, crappy DB design, crappy testing and even crappy systems design. They should take a long hard look at Facebook and start to feel really ashamed. Hell, maybe they fixed everything now. Maybe the friend counters have gotten reliable (and I don’t mean the kind of reliable that is achieved by a daily cron job to recompute them), and maybe the whole rest of the interface has suddenly seized to suck, but I strongly doubt it.

Although, I’ve used Hyves the most of all these sites, I miss it the least. Of course, this is also due to attention-seeking types who just want to have some kind of hip, public interaction with me, while giving me the mistaken impression that there’s something intimate within reach. No, I can’t say that I miss most of my 85+ Hyves “friends”.

Removing my Hyves account wasn’t terribly difficult, although, like with MySpace, I did have to dig in the FAQ to find out how, which I consider another UI fail.

Facebook

Facebook’s interface I’ve liked since day 1. It was modern, slick, fast and responsive. The design was clean and everything worked as expected. Also, everything I’ve read about it’s technical design is beautiful. I liked facebook.

Yet, all (most of) my friends where mostly on Hyves, because Hyves is the predominant social networking site in the Netherlands. Hyves sucks, and the websites aren’t interchangeable, because none of the big social networking sites are (at least were, when I quit) open; they were all walled gardens. If you want to hang out with friends in a garden, you have to subdue to the owner of said garden. This is exemplified by the fact Facebook, for all it’s technical glory, won’t even let you delete your account!

At least deactivating it only takes two steps and, admittedly, Facebook is the one account that I’m most likely to ever reopen again. 😕

Later, I found out that there’s a much better/easier way to delete some social networking accounts. It’s called the Web 2.0 Suicide Machine and, like I understood it, it actually “purges” your accounts by first deleting all your messages, scraps and other nonsense created with your account. Best, of all: the corporate drones behind Facebook are angry at the Suicide Machine. Sooo sad. 😈

I’m proud that the Web 2.0 Suicide Machine comes from the Netherlands. It sort of makes up for the crap creation that is Hyves.


    2 Comments ( Add comment / trackback )

    1. (permalink)
      Comment by David Kemper
      On August 25, 2012 at 19:05

      Great page, Rowan. Heel graapig. I can’t remember the last time I met anyone with the guts to admit they don’t have 85 friends. Ik probeer nu ook mijn Hyves profiel te deleten. Bunch of poseurs…the music is crap!

    2. (permalink)
      Comment by Rowan Rodrik
      On April 24, 2018 at 21:07

      Reaching the 85+ friends mark in Hyves was the drop which made me jump from the whole social web wagon. I don’t have 85 friends. I don’t want to have 85 friends! Whoever does, needs to get some fucking counseling. It’s not healthy to have 85 friends. And if they’re not friends, then don’t fucking call them so.

      […]

      [A]dmittedly, Facebook is the one account that I’m most likely to ever reopen again. 😕

      After being activated again, my Facebook account continued to get better and better at stealing my attention, until it became necessary to force myself to stop logging in, at at least 300 friends past the 85 mark.

      Then, a few weeks ago, beautiful bandwagon appeared for me to jump on, and I finally said “bye, bye” for good to Facebook:

      https://youtu.be/ysa-SzNepsA